My ego fears her disappointment and would rather suffer my own pain than to experience hers, because I can take responsibility for my challenges and work through them. I cannot fix hers. My ego feels her pain but cannot learn her lessons or take actions for her. This is enmeshment. As the mother infant bond develops, the mother feels the child’s pain and needs as her own so that she is motivated to attend to them. As the child becomes an adult, the mother must release this enmeshment.
I open my heart to allow the feelings of frustration to flow and depart.
The higher self knows that our teenage and adult children are our fellow travelers on the spiritual journey, they are no longer ours to care for. As we release our need to control their lives and protect them from pain, we allow them to learn their own lessons and live their own lives. God has no grandchildren. Fear is the absence of love, so we must evolve to the point where we only love them without fear. This shows them that we love them despites their mistakes or challenges and that we believe they can transcend their problems. This is the eternal perspective that all of God’s children have everything they need within themselves to transcend their current challenges.
Love dispels fear as wisdom dispels ignorance.